No one likes a creeper. While you may think you're being smart, savvy or sexy by flooding a girl with persistent flattering messages - you're actually being none of those things. You're just setting yourself up as desperate, dateless and clutching at straws. Wait for the moment to tell her she is amazing and wonderful and your dream cyber girl - she'll appreciate it more when she gets to know you. Online dater, Lucy, 24, recalls her pet peeve: Buddy, I've declined your invitation once don't make me do it again. No amount of 'kisses', emails, access to your hidden photos is going to make me change my mind.

So please take a hint and be on your way. Be vulgar or overtly sexual when you're getting to know someone you'll come off as only looking for one thing. Use pickup-artist techniques online they won't work and they look rehearsed. Ask girls to send you photos of them in bikinis creeper alert! You sound like a teenage text addict with nothing better to do than check up on her.

Read her profile carefully, comment on things, have a personality! PLUS rev up your profile a little.

It can be tough to start a conversation on an app!

This is a job interview for a relationship with a wonderful lady friend, after all. Describing yourself as someone who "likes to watch movies, hang out with friends" will only make you sound like the , other people with online profiles. Give them a reason to want to get to know you. Women want a guy with emotion, feeling and a little bit of romance. But DON'T forget tip number two, don't be creepy in your brave attempt to overcome boring.

Write generic messages with "hi" or "hey" or leave no subject in the headline - be original. Treat her like she is the same as every other girl you're currently interested in - be thorough and thoughtful. Get on with it already! Make a move if you think she's interested and then win her over with your humour and personality. Some hi will want to bash you over the head because you basically just equated her to a small child. Cause Jamaican me crazy, girl.

When you fell down from heaven and landed on your head? Try to come up with something witty based off my profile, or point out shit we have in common. The ability to read is a trait that is highly coveted among females in search of a mate. It could be that women like guys who write mumbly.

Mentioning your religion helps you, but, paradoxically, it helps you most if you have no religion. These are the religious terms that appeared a statistically significant number of times. Atheist actually showed up surprisingly often times per 10, messages, second only to mentions of christian and ahead of for jewish and for muslim.

But ideally you should just disbelieve the whole thing. The program then aggregated results by phrase before presenting the data.

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