You can also get herpes by kissing someone who has an oral mouth infection, by having oral sex with someone who is infected, or by any skin-to-skin contact involving an infected area. Herpes sores look like small blisters. When the blisters break, they leave small sores, also called ulcers, which can be very painful.

The sores can take two to four weeks to heal. Many people report feeling a tingling sensation in the area before the blisters appear. When herpes infection occurs on the mouth and lips, it may appear as "cold sores" or "fever blisters. If you have herpes, it's important to tell potential sexual partners before you become physically involved.

Many people think that herpes can only be transmitted when there are active blisters or sores, but that isn't true. The virus still lives in the skin, even when it looks normal. The most important thing to remember, when it comes to herpes and dating, is this: Your life isn't over just because you have herpes!

You can still date. You can still fall in love, and someone can still fall in love with you! Yes, you have an additional hurdle when it comes to finding new relationships. But many, many people have gotten over that hurdle and are happy with their lives - including their sex lives. It's unrealistic to expect your dates not to care that you have herpes. Although there are medicines to keep outbreaks in check, there is no cure.

My mum is probably the only person, but she'd be so disappointed as ironically, she teaches sex ed. I tried hinting it the other day over the phone, but got the whole, 'I hope it's not something like an STD' type reply. It's just a bit hard being here. The language barriers don't help. So in conclusion, I want to come to terms what life is like having herpes; Is there anyone else here that has it?

How has it affected your life, and how do you cope? Also, to those that don't have it, would you ever sleep with someone who has herpes? I'm not looking for sympathy, as this is all my fault and I have to live with it for the rest of my life. I've given up hoping it's just a bacterial or fungal infection, as the signs all point to herpes especially with what the doctor said. Follow 2 North Follow 0 followers 0 badges Send a private message to North. Follow 3 Hi Just wanted to reassure you that your situation is not as hopeless as you think it is.

You're right in that the STD tests in the UK do not test for herpes because if you had antibodies in your blood this would not tell you whether this was because of a currrent or a past infection, or whether the infection is in the genital or mouth area. So your best bet is to have the fluid from a blister tested as this can tell you whether it is herpes, and what type there are two. I have genital herpes.

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I got it off someone who knew he had it but didn't tell me that. I had a full STD check before we stopped using condoms, he had one too both clear but of course they don't test for herpes But when I got my first outbreak a week or so after we stopped using condoms, and I told him he just shrugged his shoulders and told me he doesn't like condoms and if he'd told me about having herpes I would not have agreed to stop using them. Needless to say, we're not together anymore! I had the same thoughts after this, felt dirty, like I'd never find another boyfriend. I mean, who would chose to risk getting infected?

Condoms don't protect you fully and you can infect people when you're not having symptoms. And the first outbreak was horrendous. However, I was also very clear in my mind that if the situation arose and I met someone, I would tell them very soon that I had herpes, before either of us developed feelings. That was he would have what was denied me: I met someone a year or so after this, and told him straight away. He said he appreciated my honesty, and would think about what he wanted to do and get some information about herpes.

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After some thinking he decided that I was worth taking the risk. That was two years ago. We have been using condoms and avoid having sex when I have an outbreak I can tell when I get one a few days beforehand, and I only have one outbreak a year. So far he is not infected - thought it is possible that he IS but just not having symptoms - but he loves me and to him I am worth that risk. I think the right guy will feel the same about you As for children, you can having children when you have herpes.

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The only thing to bear in mind is that should you have blisters shortly before birth they will do a C-section to stop you transmitting the virus to the baby. It can't be transmitted during pregnancy.

I hope things will become easier for you. Unless she'd like her daughter to be abstinent, I can't see how she could blame you for getting an STD. Herpes is a pain at times, but I've learned to live with it and found out that it won't stop me from having a relationship that was my main worry. I hope things work out ok for you. Follow 5 The sad thing about herpes is that the stigma is way worse than the actual symptoms.

I mean, sure, an outbreak of uncomfortable, itchy sores sounds really unpleasant—but we all experience unpleasant symptoms at some point. I get a yeast infection every two to three months, for instance. That itches and it sucks too. But I don't think it means my life is over, and no one tells me that I am a bad person for it. Herpes is just stigmatized because it's sexually transmitted. People blow it out of proportion because deep down people equate STDs with being "dirty" or "slutty"—a ridiculous, dehumanizing notion. Anyone can get herpes, just like anyone can get really virulent colds from their loved ones, even , or anyone can get food poisoning.

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Why is it that if someone has allergies that make her break out with itchy hives all the time, people have sympathy for her, but if she breaks out with itchy herpes sores, she is "disgusting"? Many people get herpes and are asymptomatic, or their symptoms are so minor that they don't even notice.

Tons get one or two outbreaks and then are symptomless for years. You don't die from it. It is unpleasant, but in the grand scheme of things, it's not really all that bad. So we need to remind each other that it's not as big a deal as we think it is. Right now, the worst part about getting herpes is its effect on your future love life. You wonder, "Will anyone sleep with me now?

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Will anyone want to be with me? Will I ever fall in love? I think we need to change people's attitudes about this infection, one person at a time. So here I am, a herpes-less person so far as I know. If someone I were about to date told me he or she had herpes, I might be taken aback. But would I freak out and refuse to date that person? I think that's cruel. Follow 6 Original post by fxytimi wear two condoms.

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Follow 7 Because condoms don't cover all genital skin, they significantly reduce, but do not entirely eliminate, the risk of transmitting these two infections. And although Anonymous 2 mentioned this, it bears repeating: Do not use more than one condom at once. Two or more condoms are no more effective than one condom. In fact, two condoms are less effective: Kashya Follow 0 followers 2 badges Send a private message to Kashya.

Follow 8 Oh my, before now I wasnt actually aware that Herpes was a life-long virus. Im really sorry OP, I hope things work out for you. Follow 9 Ahwell it's going to change my life obviously but you just have to get on with things, focus on what you love and try not to let it get you down. Both myself and my boyfriend got an outbreak at the same time so we don't really know where it came from. They said that outbreaks would become less frequent and less painful but my immune system is rubbish.

A year later and i'm grateful to say that i get an outbreak maybe once every two months this varies person to person , BUT the important thing is that i almost don't notice it - i get mild itching for a day, but then it generally heals in a couple of days. The doctor told me that eventually outbreaks will become so infrequent that its like you don't even have it. As for controlling it, I went to America for summer camp about 6 weeks after contracting it. The doctor put me on some medication which prevented any outbreaks. I think its ok to take it short-term i. So, honestly - herpes isn't that bad.

You can easily sleep with someone and not transmit it if you don't have an outbreak at that time. Its definitely manageable so don't panic. I know what triggers mine - stress and quite rough sex, so I can be more aware. I couldn't walk or sleep and when I eventually got the guts up to go to the doctor she said it was just a yeast infection - so don't rule it out!! I also had spots and things. The main thing is, don't panic and whichever it is, the sooner you get it diagnosed, the better.